If you're someone who tries hard to please people, and find yourself feeling burned out and taken advantage of, the answer is not just to get better at saying no.
Can you imagine a world filled with nothing but personal growth experts? Who would plant the food? Create art? Invent smartphones? Tell stories? Fix broken bones? Maintain the roads? It is a scary thought!
In our hearts we know living in / from fear isn’t serving our best selves, and yet it serves a purpose. It protects us from getting hurt again. From failure, let down, judgement, abandonment… just to name a few. I’ll let you fill in your own blank….. What are you protecting yourself from?
When we make a difference to one person, no matter how small it may seem at first, the impact can be felt far and wide, like ripples of a stone thrown in the water.
The habit of dwelling on WHY my hurt feelings are fair and reasonable is a trap, and this habit keeps me from moving on toward solutions. Life has no pause button. Every minute I spend dwelling on WHY I’m feeling bad is a minute I’ll never, ever get back.
